Kaahe Poot Jhagrat Hau Sang Baap

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I was just reading this article, Balancing Sikhi With Family Obligations on the Panthicotpreka Blog. Otpreka Veer Ji has raised some excellent points which we all need to consider, as this is a problem faced by many new amritdharis who come from 'typical' punjabi families.

I just wanted to add the following to Otpreka Veer Ji's post.

Kaahe Poot jhagrat hau sang baap
Jinn ke jannay badeeray tumm hau, tinn siyon jhagrat paap
(O Son, why are your quarrelling with your father. It is a sin to fight with your parents who gave birth to you and nurtered you to your youth).

According to Gurbani, it is wrong to fight with your parents. By the same token, if they ask you to do something anti-Gurmat, you are allowed to refuse that but politely. We have a perfect example of Satguru Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji. His father even slapped him when Guru Sahib did sacha sauda and fed 20 saadhoos. Guru Sahib kept his head low and did not oppose his father Mehta Kaaloo Ji hitting him. He did not argue back. BUT, he did not give up his Gurmat stance either.

Eventually with love, Guru Sahib won over his parents. In the same way, we should keep patience and love for our parents, even if their demands are anti-Gurmat.

Do more paath and ardaas. Guru Sahib will surely melt the hearts of your parents, if you stay in Gurmat, do paath, and do not disrespect your parents by yelling back at them. Don't hate your parents and don't forget what they have done for you. It is hard to pay back one night of taking care by your mother, when you were an infant. Once you stay in Gurmat, respect your parents and politely keep your Gurmat stance, Guru Sahib will hold your arm and fix all your problems.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh